Going above and beyond – Mission Moment

Rhonda Bodfield, right, leading a Zumba class at Armory Park during 2016 Beyond! commemoration events. Photo: A.E. Araiza

We all have that person in our office – that positive, first to volunteer, always going above and beyond, trying to make the day brighter for everyone, person – like Rhonda Bodfield, the director of Communications at TMC.

Bodfield is respected by her coworkers for her professionalism, strong work ethic and pleasant demeanor – no surprise; she takes it a step further, demonstrating TMC’s dedication at local events.

“She is one of our best and most active volunteers,” said Jessica Mitchell, program manager for outreach at TMC. “We see her at five to six TMC events throughout the year, from the Summer Safari Friday Nights to Be Safe Saturdays.”

If you have been to a TMC event or visited a TMC booth at a community event, then you’ve probably seen Bodfield helping fit a bike helmet for a child, handing out helpful information or discussing public health.

“It’s not just that she volunteers, but how she volunteers,” said Mitchell. “She really wants to help people and you can see that it’s rewarding to her – her participation inspires other TMC employees to volunteer too.”

The next time you are enjoying one of Tucson’s many, fun community events, stop by the TMC booth and say hello to Rhonda.

Reducing stress during the holidays

family and friends eating dinnerThe holidays can be full of friends, families and festivities.

They can also bring stress.

We talked previously about the importance of putting aside a desire for perfection.  But there’s another potential pitfall to avoid: saying yes to so many requests that you find yourself overextended.

…A friend invites you to an annual holiday brunch.

…The family wants to go to the annual holiday movie outing.

…Work has its standard office party. Colleagues are hoping to go out for nibbles and drinks separately as well.

…Your aunt is hoping you can join her for a holiday fundraiser for one of her favorite charities.

They all sound great.

And even if they don’t sound great, you often don’t want to disappoint others, so you end up saying yes.  The next thing you know, your calendar is way too full; your errand list is way too long and your bank account way too thin.

When it comes to scaling back, the first person you have to convince is yourself. It’s OK to slow things down. And if you won’t do it for yourself, think of it this way: Showing up a frazzled, less attentive, less-engaged version of yourself could shortchange others around you.

You can say “no” while still sounding open and friendly. Here are some suggestions:

  • I would love to get together, but my calendar is really full with the holidays approaching. Can we schedule a time when things slow down so we don’t have to rush and I can give you my undivided attention?”
  • “I’m looking forward to seeing you, but a formal dinner is really beyond my capacity right now. Any chance you have time to grab a cup of coffee in the coming week or so?”
  • “Thank you for the invitation to join you at the charity event. It sounds like a great cause, but I’ve already agreed to help meet several other needs this season. Thanks for sharing it with me, though. It’s nice to know about options for future years.”

You don’t have to give a reason, either. Try a simple: “Thank you for thinking of me, and I’m sure I’d enjoy it, but I have a prior commitment and I won’t be able to attend.”

While it’s important to maintain balance, it’s also important to recognize if you’re pulling back from social engagements because of depression or other behavioral health issues. Isolating at holiday time has the potential to increase symptoms like appetite, sleep and mood disturbance.

Holidays can also bring memories of times past that can make us sad if we have lost loved ones or have loved ones who are ill. It’s important to honor the authenticity of your feelings and seek help when you need it.

Try to hold close the spirit of the holidays. The winter holidays are all about peace and love. Allowing others to help can bring joy and purpose to them just as you felt joy to all the “Yesses” you were able to say this year.

Try to savor the positives in your life and create new holiday memories that keep you healthy and happy. Sit back, enjoy some egg nog with a good holiday movie and honor yourself for finding balance in an ever changing world. You deserve it. Happy Holidays to All!


Terri Waldman MSW was the director of the TMC Geropsychiatric Center at Handmaker and now is the administrator at Copper Canyon Alzheimer’s Special Care Center

My child is in hospital – what are family-centered rounds and how can I make the most of them?

family centered roundsRounds are the discussions that happen every day between the medical staff and parents of a child at TMC for Children, about the child’s progress and plan of care. The family-centered rounds take place in the patient’s room and include the family and patient as a critical part of the health team.

“Parents know their children and know how they’re going to react to new situations. The physicians and medical staff know what the evidence-based care is appropriate for the child. Working together in family-centered rounds, parents and medical staff can develop a plan of care that is best for the child.” said Jordan Richardson, child life specialist. “When parents take an active role in the family-centered rounds, they feel more involved. It improves communication and outcomes when everyone is on the same page.”

What can parents do to capitalize on family-centered rounds?

Be present on rounds

Try to be at the rounds. We know that it can be difficult to be there, and particularly if you don’t have flexibility in work schedules. At TMC, rounds on the pediatric unit occur from 9 a.m. – noon every day. The order and the time of rounds is dependent upon how sick patients are and varies from day to day as acuity often changes.

Participate!

Listen on rounds. Ask questions about things you don’t understand. Don’t hesitate to speak up on rounds.

Know that longer conversations may have to happen later

Our staff spends time with each patient, but needs to see everybody by the end of the morning. Once the hospitalist sees all of the patients and develop plans to move everyone’s care forward, he or she can return in the afternoon to have more in-depth discussions.

Write your questions down on a piece of paper

If you think of questions after the doctor leaves, or in the middle of the night, write down the question on a piece of paper or on the whiteboard in the room.   “We will be happy to answer them on rounds in the morning.” Richardson says.

medical students

Be part of shaping doctors of the future

The attending physician often is working with physicians in training and medical students. The attending physician will allow the trainees to present your child in a formal format and then may do some quick bedside teaching.   The teaching is for you as well! Please listen in and participate. This is how we all learn.   Don’t be surprised if you find that you have something to teach our trainees; our families often have valuable insight.

Just with every team, everybody brings different strengths. You, as a parent are a key team player on family-centered rounds.   Do not hesitate to ask questions and express your concerns.   Our goal is to provide high-quality, effective care for your child while in the hospital, and the best way we can do that is with your involvement.

 

 


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